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I'm just worried because what guy would accept the fact that have genital herpes & to No man is going to want to be with me. Let alone get even close to me basically my sex/love life may as well be extinct. this sick feeling if I start to become emotionally attached and usually just cut them off. Cause realistically speaking once he finds out he's most likely to: 1. Want nothing to do with me anymore, or 2. Spread his newfound knowledge around about me. 😐
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Posted on Jun 09, 2018
I felt this way briefly after being diagnosed.. but still went on to date. Shortly after my diagnosis I met a nice guy and we went out for about a month before I told him. In a sense I was lucky, his last job had been being a public health educator on? You guessed it.. std transmission. We discussed it, and he was very positive and open to a sexual relationship. We just refrained during an outbreak. I've told another person after last, who was also open to a sexual relationship (Didn't happen due to other reasons) - you would be surprised. Many people are educated, or at least open minded. Have your info at the ready if you are worried about telling someone on transmission/protection. Good luck!
I feel like people with STD should be open and accept each other. In my case if I was lucky enough to find someone who liked me and I liked the other person, then I would be willing to accept what every STD was involved. Love is more important than STD or sex. Accept and explore if someone is interested in you. Love is the most important feeling to me!
I suggest you practice safe-play. Tell him not to stealth you. If he does ‘pretend’ to use a condom or choose not to replace one, be mad. Do not see him again. Once you know him well enough and you both love each other, tell him. Unless you’re planning on marrying him (and him asking you), it isn’t his business.
No play when you’re broke out (just before when you have the tingling sensation and until fully healed).
Tell him what whatever excuse you like — not in the mood, period, traveling....while you’re symptomatic.
Posted on Mar 23, 2018
Just want to let you know that if a man loves you, he will stick by you. I was married for 34 years and never gave it to him. Had to refrain from sex when I was having an outbreak, but other than that life as usual...
Trust me someone will love you even with it. I felt the same way 7 years ago when I was diagnosed. About 6 months later I met a great guy. I was sure as soon as I told him he would leave me but that ended up not being the case. He said he loved me no matter what and wanted to be still be with me. We were together 5 1/2 years until he passed away unexpectedly otherwise we would still be together. We even had 2 children. Trust me if they don’t want to be with you after you tell them they weren’t the right one to begin with!
How long have you had it? & girl your sex life isn't over. Ive had this for a week and know my sex life isn't over. Shit, I would be so mad if my sex life is over, lol. All you can do is tell him and if he spreads this around then fuck it, it's a part of you now. He wasn't there for you to begin with.